The dreaded D word is one that we all wince to when we hear that come up in conversation from a loved one expressing their feelings about our actions. Sometimes our disappointment isn’t always directed at a person, it could be toward something we saw going much differently. Can we move on after loss and disappointment? The short answer to that is, it’s complicated.
Disappointment comes in all varieties especially as you’re moving through adulthood. Visions you once had for yourself become altered and paths become rerouted. It’s important for us to process our losses in order to move forward. Moving forward doesn’t mean erasing, it means allowing space for more life to be lived. Some of us move through life with unprocessed losses and feelings of disappointment which seep into our relationships especially the one we have with ourselves.
Disappointment in Relationships
All revolve around needs no longer being met, growing pains or a breakdown in communication.
Disappointment in Career Path
Reframing these situations is an opportunity to redirect our attention elsewhere even if that means feeling a little lost for a while. It is essential to our wellbeing to work towards self compassion rather than staying stuck in feelings around failing at something we committed to or having let down others in our lives if we voice that this isn’t for us. Naturally, we very well may feel this way initially. Our actions impact others and when it comes to a career shift, this can impact your partner or family. This is a large weight to carry. We’re often faced with this difficult decision of choosing a new path that aligns to our authentic self or pushing through while accepting that it might not be the best opportunity to make a change in this moment. Only we can make the best choice for ourselves with the information and feelings that we have.
Processing Disappointment